Sometimes the world is a funny place. There are so many good people in this world and yet, so many bad. And the problem is, I feel that it's really hard to figure out which is which. It bothers me even more so that in most cases, one person is both. Granted, I think having a dark side is pretty normal. A dark side doesn't mean "evil" so much. I mean... I'm of the opinion that most people are good, or desire to do good things. I figure everyone has a downfall (I have many... but I'm not gonna discuss them for now... just go on thinking I'm perfect).
What bothers me is that word "non-conformist." That was a word SO over-used when I was in high school. It seemed EVERYONE was a non-conformist. That's pretty funny to me in retrospect... everyone wanted to be different. And I think that still holds true today. Everyone wants to stand out... to be noticed... to be different. That doesn't mean that I think everyone wants to be a glory hog (I'm guilty of that), but I think people want to feel like someone finds them special above all others on earth. I don't mean the "true love" thing (although that still holds true), but I think most people want people to like them. Am I right in assuming that? The problem I'm seeing is that so many people, especially those that are close to me (since I pay particular attention to those individuals) want to be special or look cool, or whatever you want to call it, to the wrong people. Bad people? No, of course not. I don't think it can ever be that general. But to people that somehow give off the vibe that to be "really something" requires doing something against your normal nature. Now please, forgive me for being a bit biased... but it just doesn't make sense to me that in order to impress I should get wasted with my friends. Personally, I don't drink. I don't believe in it. I certainly don't see any problem in my friends drinking... nor do I really have a problem with those friends of mine that drink for the sole purpose of getting completely drunk. I may not like that, but who am I to tell someone what they can, or cannot do? But these same friends don't expect me to drink with them to be accepted. I love them for it. I feel befriended regardless. But so many will do something they don't like to do in order to fit in. I hope to never do that. I do stupid things all the time... but, heheh... they're all things that are already in my nature. But I'll never understand why people, in an attempt to be different, become a rebel of sorts. That's not different. That's the same thing SO MANY others do. So why does that have to be the way to be different?
It bugs me when people "learn" how to smoke with their "friends" egging them on. Or someone who "acquires a taste" for alcohol, when they can't stand the taste. I've always been of the opinion that, in that regard, if I don't know what I'm missing... then what do I care? After all... I'm saving money (my motivation for so many things.. hahaha). Forgive me if this seems insulting. If you happen to drink or smoke... please know this isn't me taking a jab at you for it. I'm really just venting. Besides... MOST of my extended family either drink and/or smoke... and I love those buggers. I'm sure that as I continue to type... I will be jumping from thought to thought and probably not make a great deal of sense... but I'm okay with that. That's pretty normal for me. I tend to jump subject a lot.
It's just funny how, in being a non-conformist, everyone is the same. We're too lenient. It's funny... people want to be a tough-guy, or some kind of "against-the-grain" person. That's so overdone... what ever happened to standing out by being the person who, no matter what, stood up for what was right? What happened to manners? Remember those? My mother taught me a lot about manners. That doesn't mean I always observe them... but gosh I try. I don't think manners are taught as much anymore. Why is someone in their 80's not worth our respect? Okay okay... on the freeway... maybe not quite as much respect... they COULD attempt the speed limit... but I digress. Why do people get mad when you look at them? How is that an insult? I look at people all the time... I like to see what people are like, how they stand, what their expression is like when they're simply listening to someone else speak. Whatever happened to letting someone merge in front of you on the road when they signal, instead of trying to pass them really quick. Cuz heaven forbid they get to their destination before I do... right? And speaking of which, what ever happened to just USING your signal in the first place? Why do we not open doors for the women of this world? Why are we not giving them flowers (or cute purses in my wife's case.. hahaha) or even just smiling and waving at strangers? Why do we not compliment people?
What makes someone a cool person? What makes them an outcast? And when do we decide a person is in some category? I find it amusing that most of the "popular" MySpace profiles are the ones that are in the best shape and show the most skin. Why are we so willing to go out of our way to compliment the "hot stranger" and withhold good from those we actually have in our lives? It's interesting that we put the least amount of effort in the most important relationships. Perhaps because we already feel safe and comfortable in those relationships.
I think most people are good. I think most people are rooting (for those in Australia... barracking) for the good guy in movies. We're always happy to see the weasel in the story get his just desserts. Why? I think it's cuz inside we want to be the good guy. I know I do. I hope I can live up to that. I hope I can be the person inside that I pretend to be on the outside. Cuz I do act like a better person than I am when I'm around others. I want this image of me to be so good. At least in general. I want people to like me. I want others to be happy. I want to be able to make other people happy. I hope more people stand out by doing good, not by being the rebel. I know not everyone believes in God... but even so... I hope He blesses us all. I hope we're all up to the challenges that lie ahead.
I have some amazing friends, and I feel very blessed by that. I look at my friends list and I'm amazed. I have a lot more friends than I ever realized. And they're all wonderful people, with amazing talents. And on a personal note, people who have shown me so much love. I am grateful for that.
There... I've vented... I'm sure my following blogs will be both amusing and pointless, as originally planned. :)
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